Is near enough good enough? This depends entirely on the end result that we are striving to achieve.
Looking for the absolute perfect solution may not always be the most effective approach. Sometimes near enough can actually be good enough especially if perfection is in the eye of the beholder. Liken it to a child whose parents always expect the A+ and are happy with nothing less. The expectation placed on the child can destroy all will to learn and remove any sense of achievement from the child even if they achieve an A.
If you are looking to buy your first car, unless you are from the privilege few, then it will not be the Lamborghini you’ve dream about forever. You are going to have to settle for near enough being good enough or you may never own a car. It doesn’t mean that what you end up with won’t do the job. Being grateful, acceptance and appreciative for what you are able to have allows for a sense of gratitude, contentment and achievement.
Some people are never content and forever striving for the best of everything. Nothing is ever good enough for them and they are never comfortable or satisfied with what they have. They have to have the biggest and best of everything. They become greedy, miserable, depressed, and anxious, with low self-esteem.
A practical balanced approach is the most effective. It is ridiculous to throw thousands of dollars and unlimited resources into a project to endeavour to come up the perfect solution right from the beginning. In reality, what quite often happen is that a project will unfold in a more natural way and be more likely to be successful if allowed to evolve as it develops.
Sometimes baby steps in the early stages of a projects development allows for it to evolve with more fluidity. Circumstance often change as a project develops and expands into areas not originally taken into account. To be able to be flexible but still work towards your goals makes for a much more balanced approach. The unexpected is always going to crop up. If we relax a little and enjoy the journey instead of living in the future continually striving for the goal we will often achieve far more than we thought we were capable of.
How often do you hear of an elite athlete falling into a heap after achieving their ultimate goal or being upset because they came 2nd instead of first? If they can’t learn to be happy on the journey then they will never be satisfied no matter the placing. If they had come to the same result with a more balanced focus and broader outlook they would have thought about what is beyond this.
They will accept their placing with grace and good will and pursue the goal of 1st place. To win at all cost and near enough never being good enough can leave them feeling they are standing on a cliff edge with nothing beyond. They have given their all and only came 2nd not appreciating many would have given their right arm to have the same privilege. It is great to set goals and aim high but don’t let it stop you from living in the moment and appreciating the experiences of the journey. Sometimes it is ok if you don’t quite obtain your goals. Beating yourself up can easily become habitual and destroy any sense of achievement or pleasure you might achieve from the experience.
I was sitting in third place competing in my first national Kayak marathon with two km to go. Fourth place was half a boat length behind and kept coming at me. One of my son’s was running down the path beside the water yelling at me at the top of his lungs “go mum go, she’s coming”. I thought I had already given everything I had, the finish line seemed a thousand miles away and twice as far as the twenty km I’d already paddled. I pulled out every last ounce of everything I had to claim that third place. By the time I got to the wharf I could hardly put my paddle in the water and mustn’t have looked to good, all I could say was “I can’t move”. The officials lifted me out of my boat and lay me on the ground while I gasped for air with people in my face asking if I needed an ambulance. Try answering when you can hardly breathe!
In the following years I won a couple of Australian golds but it was that bronze medal that takes top billing in my book, it was the harder won than my golds.
It’s ok to relax a little and to see the bigger picture. However near enough is never good enough if it is used as an excuse for laziness and poor results. If precision work is required and results can mean life or death then only a perfect job is acceptable. Who wants a telephone that you can only hear half a conversation on or go sailing in upon the open seas in a yacht with a poorly patched hole because someone couldn’t be bothered doing a proper job on it. If anything less than a perfect job is not going to be good enough then be big enough to let someone else who has the right skills do it.
Be kind and honest with yourself, appreciate when near enough is good enough but especially when it isn’t.